Sat at the park in the late afternoon watching a bunch of pre school kids play on the equipment while their parents talked to each other. Each kid was different.

The little red headed girl kept busy trying out stuff until she could do it. She was focused and not trying to please any of the adults. She took care of herself.

On the other hand, the girl with long black hair cried when she lost her toy, and screamed, bringing all the adults to her to try to unsuccessfully placate her.

My heart went out to the redheaded girl.